The Healing Journey is a series born out of the reality that we all have our own individual path to healing. When we share our journey two things tend to happen, we often find freedom in sharing our stories and we always inspire others. There is power in speaking up and it is time to tap into that power.
The mission of The Healing Journey is to provide a platform for women to connect, inspire one another and empower each other. Together we will stimulate conversation, create awareness, healing and stand together knowing that each and every one of us are unique, gifted and powerful.
There are some people you connect with and instantly get a vibe from them. Dominique Mack’s energy unequivocally said “warrior” to me. Dominique is a warrior, writer, counselor and community advocate. Her story is one of perseverance and of empowerment, it teaches us to trust our inner knowing and leap when we are called to do so. I am so deeply excited to share this honest and inspiring story with you all. Community, meet Dominique Mack.
For those who don’t know you, what is your story Dominique?
I am a writer, counselor, and community advocate also known as a social worker. I currently work for a large private non-profit in coastal Georgia, USA and I absolutely love it. It is truly a dream come true as I’ve always wanted to create innovative programs for the community. Before this year I would have never wanted to be defined by my profession because I was unemployed for three years. During that time I had a baby, I moved in with my then boyfriend and things transitioned really fast.
I was born in Ft. Lauderdale, FL to a single mother. I’ve never known who my father is, but I’ve always felt loved even when I’ve felt this empty gnawing feeling that part of me was not enough. My family took me in and raised me along with my mother. I grew up in a small town off the coast of GA and when I was 14 years old I moved to live with my grandparents. I had witnessed a lot of domestic violence growing up and no longer felt safe in my home. My grandparents welcomed me with open arms in Miami, FL. Living in Miami was culture shock for a country girl. Nobody was friendly like GA and people were from all different walks of life. It was a major adjustment to say the least. I went to college at Florida State and lived in Tallahassee for 7 years.
What does womb healing look like for you?
Womb healing for me is making a conscious effort to take care of myself. It means looking inward and connecting to my spirit. Asking myself the tough questions and being careful about what I allow to enter my heart space because I believe your womb is connected to your heart.
Womb healing is tough shit because you’ve got to do a lot of up rooting and planting. Yet, it’s the soul work we need in order to get to our best selves. Part of my womb healing is teaching other women how to get free. I share my insight with others because I know how it feels to not believe you’re worthy, to feel like you have to have it all together, to face the world in shoes that don’t feel like your own. So I hold workshops in one of the small counties I serve on Women’s Empowerment topics like healthy relationships, self-esteem, shame, grief and loss, parenting, and more.
Do you remember a moment where you made the intention or conscious decision to heal yourself and your wombspace?
Yes, it was right before my twenty-fifth birthday. It was a revelation. I heard God call out to me “protect your womb”. I remember it clearly because I drew a picture of what that meant to me and I’m no painter by any means. I reached down, touched my womb and started talking to it. I started praying and speaking nothing but good things over my life. I painted words I wanted to plant in my wombspace like freedom, peace, love, hope, joy. It was then I woke up and started doing the things I needed to do instead of worrying about what wasn’t serving me anymore. I let go of all of that shit that weighed me down. I made a conscious effort to never live in fear.
What experiences have been catalysts of change for you? How have you changed?
Every catalyst of change for me always caused a physical and spiritual move. The first when I was fourteen and I moved to my grandparents. I told myself that the only way I would be saved/safe is if I left the only home I knew. My mother was in an abusive marriage and my sister and I were left to fend for ourselves often. I knew that I had a lot potential and if I didn’t move I would lose it. The one thing that I regret is leaving my sister behind at that time because her life has turned out probably how mine would have…pregnant teenager and single mother. Now, how I knew that at 14 to leave and save myself I do not know. But I knew.
When I left Tallahassee in 2014 after spending 7 years there I knew again it was time to go. I had a horrible job. The people treated me like shit. My self-esteem had crumbled, my confidence was shot out. I lost everything that made me and changed so much about myself I didn’t know who I was. I was 25 on the cusp of 26 then and I went on a journey of self-discovery.
It got worse before it got better. I got into a relationship soon after I moved to VA and then decided to move back to GA where my then boyfriend was. I was not there a week before I got pregnant. This was the most devastating news of my life. I went through a depression and I don’t believe I really got out of it until my daughter was around 1 years old. I got through it by tapping into my purpose. I started a writing business out of necessity. I needed some type of income so that I could feel like I contributed, even though there was no obligation to do so.
I started coming into my own. I could feel my strength coming back. I could feel my confidence. And then two and a half years into my relationship I started facing some hard truths. I wasn’t in love with this man. I didn’t even know who he was because he wouldn’t communicate with me no matter how hard I tried. He didn’t have vision and I knew I could not spend the rest of my life with someone with no passion. Too bad I didn’t tell him the whole truth until after he proposed and I accepted.
The universe must of really hated me because beginning in July of this year I went into what I call a series of unfortunate events. I got into a car accident and totalled my car of 7 years and broke my ankle falling down the stairs of my daughter’s daycare all within the same week. I then developed blood clots after my surgery. My godmother also passed, one of my very best friends in the whole world. I decided then and there I had to move again for my own happiness and because my spirit said move.
After all of this I’m feeling indifferent. A lot of losses and a lot of gains. I’m trying my damndest to be who God says that I am every single day.
Today almost two months after moving out I feel closing to being restored. I have days that I feel alone, but I am not lonely. I choose this life and I choose me. For me it is better to be alone with myself than to feel lonely with a man I’m in relationship with. I find myself getting clear about what I desire. I am so much more powerful than I ever realized. I am better than I know. I’m so proud that I did not stay and settle.
We spoke at length about strength and vulnerability. What does being strong mean to you?
Being strong to me means owning your power. It means being comfortable with owning your shit even if it’s ugly. It means being vulnerable when it matters and sharing your truth so that you may help someone else heal.
How has your relationship with your mother and your grandmother impacted your relationship with your daughter?
Whew. My relationships with my mother and grandmother is totally different. My grandmother is who I go to for emotional support and I talk to her every single day. She is my heart. My relationship with my mother ebbs and flows. Sometimes it’s real good and other days I just don’t wanna even hear her voice. She has consistently not been there for me when I needed her and I feel like she’s very selfish. I think for so long I thought I was a bad mother because my mother wasn’t physically present in my life. She never shows up so to speak. It’s always important to me for people to “show up” be present and accountable to others. So I’m constantly working that out mothering. I have a hard time connecting to my daughter. It’s hard to counteract against all those traits I’ve learned from my mom. And now that I’m a working mother I don’t spend much time with her as I use to. I battle with that too. My daughter has taught me to slow down, to pay attention and to listen to what can’t be verbalized. My most favorite thing to do with her is laughing and dancing.
Has becoming a mother and raising your daughter influenced your own healing journey?
It’s made me more of aware of who I present myself to be in the world and my home. It’s made me know that if I don’t heal she’s going to have to deal with a generational curse. I have to resolve what I can so that she doesn’t have to relive the things that I’ve had to experience. It made me become even more protective of my happiness and my sacredness.
If your womb could speak, what would she say?
She would probably cry. She would probably say, “Keep listening Dominique and keep moving.”
And if my womb could speak today she would say, “Release, release your need to be in control of your own destiny. Release so that every good and perfect thing God has planned for you can happen. Release your expectations of how it should be and enjoy the moments.”
What is your message for anyone in the midst of or about to enter their healing journey?
When in doubt drown out every message that does not speak to your soul. Find solace and get a paper and pen and write out what you hear even the things that don’t make sense. Counteract every negative message with a positive one. Be still.
Do you have any messages for anyone reading this post?
Get clear about who you are and walk firmly in your truth. I know you will get weary. Rest when you need to. Revitalize, reinvent if necessary but don’t give up and don’t give in. Don’t give in to anything that’s not who you are. Press through the pain. There is better. There is more for you. Believe in something bigger than yourself. But know that you have everything within you to be who you are destine to become. Always be becoming.
Thank you Dominique for your honesty and your wisdom. Thank you for sharing such powerful pieces of your journey. You are a powerhouse, and an inspiration to many. Here’s to all of our becoming. I bow to the warrior goddess in you.
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Want to share your Healing Journey?
If you are interested in sharing your Healing Journey along with Dominique Mack and other powerful Goddesses, please email info(at)clarekenty.ca with “The Healing Journey” in the subject line and include a little about yourself and your story, or fill out the form below and I will contact you. Please be aware that The Healing Journey series is primarily about womb healing and womb wellness.